In 1942, a woman gave birth to a son (placenta
praevia, c-section). A day or so later, the Matron came in.
Matron: Do you want him circumcised?
Mother: Oh, I don't know. I'd better ask
Father: I don't know about that. There
might be some valuable
nerves down there.
Mother: No, thank you.
Matron (becoming agitated):
It'll swell up to the size of a lemon! He'll be brought in screaming,
to have it done!
Mother (to herself):
What [utter nonsense]! (to Matron) No.
Acquaintance: He might have to fight in the desert. He'll get sand under
it and it'll get infected and he'll have to have it done.
Mother (a pacifist, to herself):
Damned if I'm going to have him cut to turn him into cannon-fodder ...
First-person accounts of babies and children
circumcised without even parental consent
My ... son was taken
by the hospital while I was asleep the morning after his birth [13
years ago] and circumcised without my permission. I was very upset but
I was young and never followed thru with a lawsuit. They even did the
circumcision wrong and it was crooked. I won't name the hospital but it
is the biggest teaching hospital in Dallas. Whatever you decide, it
should be your decision to make.
I have 2 sons. My first boy was born when I was 18
years old in Texas. I never knew that was a choice and so when the
doctor came in and whisked him away I didn't bat an eye. When they
returned him to me when a swollen and oozing penis, still lightly
sobbing, I knew something terrible had been done. ...
When my next son ...
was born three years later we refused to sign the consent form that was
bundled in with my intake papers. Shortly after my sweet son was born
he was picked up for "shots and a short evaluation" and returned to me
an hour and a half later with a circumsized penis. (Legal matters were
taken, but what what good do they do my son?)
I'm among the many men in America who were cut at
a young age. Specifically, according to my mom, I was circumcised the
day after I was born. From what I recall her telling me (this was a
long time ago), it was apparently against her will - the surgeons snuck
in to do the dirty deed while she was in the bathroom or something and
no one else was around to stop them.
...I have definitely heard men complain about
this, including my own father. He was adamant that my brother would not
be circumcised, and then the doctor did it anyway even though he had
explicitly been told not to. My dad was PISSED.
Ellen, I was talking to a friend of mine, who was
raised by a 100% hardcore 1960s hippy. She mentioned that her brother
was circumcised and I told her I was very surprised by that. She told
me that her mother was coerced into it - they had her sign the
permission form and told her it was for something else. ...
I have 5 sons...4 which are intact. My first son
was born when I was a very young woman and so shy I was scared to ask
questions. I heard my son crying in the nursery, pushed the nurse call
button, and waited. When the nurse came she had a permission slip for
me to sign. I asked her to please bring me my son. She refused until I
signed the piece of paper giving them permission to circ him. I was
still debating if I could go through with it. I asked again for my son,
and she said that it would be a few because they had already circed
him!!!! Without my permission. Crying, I signed the permission slip.
When they brought him to me, he was lethargic from screaming for 30
minutes, wouldn't nurse for several hours because they had given him a
bottle of sugar water and was damaged. Not
only had they not asked permission first, they had botched the job. The
tip of his penis has a scar from where too much skin was removed.
He is now 21, almost 22. He shyly told me when he was younger that when
he gets an erection
that it is painful, because the
skin pulls so badly. I can honestly say that the woman I
am today would have kicked some booty for what was done to my son. My
heart was broken, and I was horrified at how they could have taken that
decision from me.
... [my son's] Step Dad is a regretful product of
a maltreated mother and a trickery of a circumcision-- they assumed she
wanted, that caused my poor Mother in law to run screaming and crying
down the hospital corridor with my future husband bleeding and
My mother said she regretted having my brothers
cut, and if she could do it again, she would leave them intact. She
said that it was done automatically … she didn’t even realize she had a
choice. She became a nurse later in life, and came home from the
hospital on more than one occasion in tears after witnessing a botched
circ…once absolutely beside herself because she didn’t see any way the
baby would grow up to live a normal life.
a new father told me he told me he wasn't given an
option for circ. he was shocked how much blood and care was required,
When I was young, there were no computers or anti-circumcision groups.
Circumcision was just accepted as part of being male. My mother told
me that they just came in one day at the hospital, picked me up, and
told her that I was scheduled to have my circumcision. No questions
asked and no signatures required! But, that was over sixty years ago.
Those of you who think this is option or a
'private family matter' as the author writes have not had children and
fought with the hospital and physician over whether your son should be
circumcised. I fought it with both of my sons and lost because the
doctor insisted and actually did it without my approval. I wondered,
since I am neither Jewish nor Muslim (I am from France, a country which
does not practice routine circumcision) why my sons had to go through
this procedure. ...
This was nearly 30 years ago and although I
specifically said that I did not want it done, it was done anyway.
My husband was born in Cincinnati in 1964. He was circumcised with all
the other males in the nursery without the consent or knowledge of his
parents. Had they been asked, his parents would have said no. His
father was intact and their family is Cherokee and had no cultural
history of circumcision.
I was born in 1955. My grandparents came from
Europe. My father's side were Roman Catholics. My mother's side Russian
My father was not circumcised, he was the youngest
of his family. My younger maternal uncle was also not circumcised. This
knowledge gained from showering together when I was a small boy after
going to the beach.
That was when I noticed the difference between me
and them. After pondering it for a while and trying to get my
"foreskin"to be like theirs I asked my parents why I looked different.
I was informed I was circumcised. And I found out my parents had no say one way or the other
about it. The first time my mother bathed me she noticed
it and asked why I was circumcised. Apparently, it was standard ...
procedure to perform this on male babies. No opt out options. No
discussion about it or even a passing mention of it. ...
So, I was operated on without my approval nor the approval of my
except for one White boy and all the Black and Latino and Asian boys in
my P.E. classes, all the other white boys were circumcised. Seems like
it was a pandemic for White boys. Most of the Black, Asian and Latinos
were born in the same hospital I was. They were not cut, but the White
boys were. Talk about another impact of segregation.
me and my wife were in the delivery room and she was already sedadide
and the nurse camed in with a clipboard to my wife and said if you don't want your child circumcised
then put a big X across this page, she did. well my son
was born without problems once again thank God. Then the next morning
we found out about the circumcising and were devestated.
My father was intact, and was away at the time, and my drugged mother
doesn't remember signing the form. Under "reason to operate"? was the
indication "live birth," and that's not a disease. It was basically
My mom ...
told me how when she'd had my brother when she was 17 (this was 1971
and in Michigan ) how circumcision
wasn't even presented to her as a choice. She felt
intimidated by the doctors.
She said that when she heard his screams, her
instinct screamed at her to go help him and she started crying. She
instantly understood why I was against it now, and said "I've always
felt in my gut that it made no sense".
What bullies doctors can be.
I'm glad to share her story! She would approve.
Courteney Elizabeth Pepper on
Facebook, August 25, 2013
They let my grandmother
sign the consent form for my son to be circumcised and
then took him while I was sleeping without telling me. They woke me up
when they brought him back and told me how to care for it. They didn't
tell me anything about the surgery beforehand other than telling me
"it's necessary, every boy gets it sooner or later." And then they told
me he'd have a much higher chance of dying if it was an emergency.
I asked my dad about it and he said that no one asked him, they just
did it. I guess that they could have done it to me without asking and
charged my parents for it, back then no one questioned the actions of a
"Dr. Trim was fortuitously well named, for he was
presumably the one responsible for having me circumcised. Obviously, I
wasn´t asked for my consent, but it seems my parents weren´t either! My
father, away at the war, knew nothing of it. My mother was simply
informed as a matter of routine by a nurse that it was time for me to
go for my circumcision, and that was that. Apparently it was the
default presumption in Dr. Trim´s nursing home -as it may have been in
many British hospitals of the time...
My sons are happy and healthy circumcised boys
too. That doesn't mean it was my right to make that decision for them.
If a single doctor had ever once told me it was not necessary, i never
would have done it. Instead, they
told me i had no choice, and that it wasn't optional.
So many years ago, it was just done. I well knew a woman of my mothers
age, who had no idea her sons had been circumcised. She was in hospital
until after the dressing was removed - more than 14 days. Thought her
sons were intact.
When I was circumcised 56 years ago, the doctor who delivered me poked
his head around the door of my mother's ward and said "I'm here to do
your boy now." My mother had no idea of what he was talking about. She
didn't realise that he was mutilating my penis until after it was all
done and I was brought to her. I hate being circumcised and so much
wish I had my foreskin and that is why I fight this fight, so baby boys
now won't suffer this emotional pain in the future.
When I was in the hospital following my son's
birth in Jackson, TN (Jackson-Madison county General Hospital) they
FORCED me to allow them to remove my son from my room every night so
they could bathe and examine my son. I was tempted to balk and say
Absolutely not but I had lost a lot of blood and was still pretty weak.
I had a birth plan that stated "No-circ" I also
had written in several places on his paperwork that he was not to be
circed. did not give consent or anything.
One night the nursery called me to inform me that
my son would be circumcised that night. I flew off of the handle. I
said No. I didn't sign consent for that. The nurse says "Well, we'll do it anyway and you can sign consent
later." OH HELL NO. I SCREAMED Into the phone that whoever
cut my son would be answering to me. I informed them I was coming to
get MY baby. I was halfway down the hall to the nursery when my nurse
came to "encourage me" to go back to bed. I said no and walked to the
nursery and waited for them to bring me my son. The pediatrician that
had been caring for him in the hospital told me there was no way she
would have cut him against my wishes but i remain unconvinced. I was
LIVID. you just DO NOT tell a woman you are going to lop off a piece of
her precious baby's body and expect her to take it in stride. I will
not ever allow any of my babies out of my sight in the hospital again.
It was too close of a call. My son is still whole, no thanks to the
spaceycasey on September 21,
It was in Spartanburg, SC @ Spartanburg Regional.
I had told his pediatrician and 2 different nurses that we didn't want
him cut. They took him for whatever bloodwork they do (?) and didn't
bring him back. I called 3 x's that I wanted my son back in the room w/
me and they said "ok, soon" but 2 hours went by. My csection butt got
up and walked to the nurses station and asked for my son. "All the boys are kept til 11:30 for
circumcisions". It was 10:30 and the surgery was to be at
11. I turned to my husband and I said in a calm manner, "Didn't we tell
these ******* that I did not want our son cut? You'd think after 3 x's
of saying so they would've made a note of it somewhere". You should've
seen those nurses scrambling to get my son!
When my oldest was born, I was getting scrubbed up
to go see him. I heard a blood curdling scream. I thought someone was
being murdered. It was like no sound I had ever heard, there was so
much pain. I ran into the room, and could feel the hairs on my neck
It was a baby being circumcised.
The nurse told me that it was too bad I had soaped
up. My boy was next to be circumcised, although we had never requested
it, nor had signed any papers. I ran to him, and held him, so no one
could do anything violent to him. ...
35 years later, I can still hear that kid's shriek, and it still raises
I was scheduled to have an at home birth but my
baby boy decided to show up a little too early and I ended up being in
the hospital - but still able to do everything with out doctors/nurses
there. Just myself and my mid-wife. ...
he was so small & so early they took him back pretty fast, with
me by his side of course and said "we will be right back with your son"
I made them stop dead in their tracks and demanded to know WHERE they
were taking my son. One nurse said "his circumcision"
I began to panic and tell them "Please bring me my son back now. I was
not informed of this nor was I even
asked for him to be circumcised or not and I am choosing
She kind of just stood there like I was crazy or
something, so I demanded for him back this time and she then came and
apologized and handed him back to me. Once he got the health
clear[ance] we left that place ...
was in the nursery 29 years ago after birth and I came in to find a
strange Dr getting ready to cut. I and his father had requested NO
CIRCUMCISION and there was a tag on his incubator and written orders.
They just took turns doing all the babies. I caught holy hell from a
whole lot of the nurses telling me how unclean and unhealthy it was as
well as a communicator of disease to women.
Make your wishes very clear to your OB or
midwife, have it noted in your chart. Bring paper and a marker and make
a sign for your door and/or the bassinet that says NO CIRCUMCISION.
When filling out preregistration paperwork, ask if there is a waiver or
form for declining circumcision.
I wish I had done all this and more. I had to tell at least 6 different people
that my son was not to be circumcised, including waking up to a nurse
preparing to remove his bassinet from my room. I screamed at that one.
I did not have any signs prepared. I wish I had.
Crosby on Facebook, January 11, 2015
It was the medical centers of central Georgia ... it happened last
August. Even though I had stated when I entered the hospital that I had
no intentions of circumcising. The nurse just walked in my room like
she owned the place "okay mama I'm here to take your baby, but don't
worry he'll be back soon" ... I asked what for? "His
circumcision" "uhm I didn't consent to that, so you were just about to
take my son without my permission" " on no ma'am! You would have had to
sign forms! But why aren't you choosing to do so?" "Because I'm an
intactivist that's why!" Next thing I knew the doctor was coming in
questioning me. ... I was so furious my baby stayed with me
until I was so sleep exhausted that my mom had to beg me to let the
nurses take him so that I could get some sleep. Best bet I double
checked my son when they brought him back Melanie
The nurses hounded me to circ but not as bad as
in Christen's case !
[I did manage to bring home an intact son each time, but they badgered
me with my second at every shift change. - Facebook, March 4, 2015]
When I went into Kaiser Permanente in 1987 to deliver my boy I signed
papers and specified that they were NOT to circumcisize my baby. When
he was born, the doctor cut into his shoulder when giving me an
episiotomy. They took him away to wait for a doctor to become available
who could stich him up. After waiting and asking for him for 6 hours my
husband went to find him. He found him in the nick of time, as they
were taking him just then to perform a circumcision. I would’ve been SO
pi$$ed off if that had happened to him. I later learned that none of
our family members were curcumcized either. I have always felt good
about my decision not to do that to him.
(8 narrow escapes)
First-person accounts by parents pressured to
circumcise their sons
I was appalled when the nurses at the
kept him to get a circumcision after he got shots. I had to ask 4 times
for my son back, and finally got up out of the bed (after a csection)
and went to the nurses station demanding my son back. "We keep all the
boys til noon for their circumcisions" the nurse said. I cursed at them
and was furious. I had told them 3 times I did not want my son cut.
My son was born June 1979 at Madison General
Hospital, Wisconsin. It was clear to me
that any kind of genital cutting of newborns is not only unnecessary,
a heinous invasion of personal physical integrity amounting in my mind
assault. This was clear to my wife and to our pediatrician as well.
Naively I thought everything was taken care of and my healthy new son
perfectly safe. I hardly realized the critical danger he was running as
regards his genital integrity so long as he and his mother were still
You can imagine, perhaps, the shock and fear
felt when a rather agitated
nurse accosted me in the hallway on the second day and urgently pressed
me the information that C--- hadn't been "circ'ed yet":
"Do you know that the baby hasn't been
yet? What are you going to do about
this? You need to get those papers signed!"
Perhaps not panic, but there was a
definite tone of emergency and high urgency in this woman's voice and
physical manner. Implied was the accusation, why, as father, hadn't I
acted before this. Really alarmed, I exclaimed:
"That's right. He's not
supposed to be circumcised. This is not supposed to happen."
sure?" she asked, "Once he's left the hospital it can't be done so
easily," she went on to explain.
"But he's not supposed to be
circumcised; there is no medical reason for this," says I.
usual," she says. "We don't want it," I insist.
My discomfort and
embarassment in this encounter was only heightened by the fear that
woman would disturb my wife and create fears in her, fears that I would
somehow have to counter. This never transpired.
My ordeal and anxiety were, however, not
on two other similar
occasions I was confronted by different nurses with virtually the same
"Do you realize your son hasn't been circ'ed
and time is
running out before you leave."
I was just astounded at the realization of
mindless this force of
hospital procedure actually was. No question about why we do this. It's
just there to be done. No questions are to be asked. And there is a
definite communication of "what's wrong with you?" "why aren't you
along with what must be called for since everybody does it?"
Truly I have never gotten over the shock of
My son's godfather told me last year that
younger brother is intact
and that when he confronted his father about it, why he'd been
cut and his brother hadn't been, his father apologized and told him
neither he nor his wife had wanted or expected this to happen - being
they have no such custom and find it abhorrent - but that to his horror
late he found that the hospital
personnel (in either Racine or Milwaukee, Wisconsin) had simply gone through with the
"procedure" without informing them. Of course this was a
offense of unwarranted and unauthorized surgery, but it was also more
fifty years ago and my friend's parents were uninformed immigrants.
I hope these and many many other stories
so many nails into the coffin of enforced and involuntary genital
mutilation of all kind, but especially in the case of the newborm.
My D[arling] W[ife]'s OB/GYN asked about it
several times at pre birth office visits, and we said no. Seemed like
it was all resolved.
Then, at the actual birth, just after I had
the umbilical cord, he began pressuring us big time. My wife was so out
of it, she does not even remember, and if I had not been there,
probably would have succumed to his pressure. He
walked back and forth, tone of voice, posture, practically pleading
with me to change my mind. I believe many people would
have changed their mind under his assault.
At the hospital, at
least 5 people asked if I wanted d[arling ]s[on] circ'd -
I said no each time but they kept asking. They were pretty awful there
about that - every time I said 'no' they would roll their eyes and say
'are you sure?' - (Yes, I'm sure that I don't want to let anyone cut
pieces off my perfect baby....)
As soon as I found out it was a boy, they
us a bill. Had to be pre-paid. I called & said we didn't want
it done, so not to bill us like the paperwork said we'd be billed. The
lady on the phone told me to "think it over" & I got the bills.
Again, I called & told them not to send them. About 2 weeks
later I get ANOTHER letter saying that if I didn't pay my late payment
& current payment, they'd want everything paid in advance
before seeing me for anything, even my regular OB visits. After a day
on the phone & calling several people in that building, I got
it taken care of.
A doctor also mentioned it to us, even
was marked in our chart that it wasn't getting done. When we told the
midwife to correct our chart (we were asked when they confirmed my
pregnancy, I said we weren't sure because I was still talking to DH
about it, but they went ahead
& marked circ anyway), she obviously cringed. She
also rolled her eyes when she realized I had changed DH's mind (DH said
something to that effect, I forget what though) & if she wasn't
in a hurry I think she would have given me a lecture about how the dad
should choose since he has a penis & I don't.
And my personal favorite circ comment EVER?
after DS was born, after 24 hours of labor, 3 hours of pushing
& about 3 minutes away from an emergency c-section if he hadn't
come when he did, I hadn't even got to hold DS yet, the doctor is
stiching me up, & he asked "So...you want him circ'ed?" I told
him no, then he said he remembered that was in my chart. He then said,
"I figured if I had to stay here all night for you, I'd go ahead
& do it myself instead of letting the weekend on call OB do it so I could get paid for it."
That left me pretty speechless.
a DAUGHTER in the only hospital for 25 miles... and they
still gave me a Circumcision Release Form in with all the standard
birth certificate/picture order form package. No one said anything
about it while I was pregnant.
I was pressured to [be] circumcise[d] about
ago when I was about 18, in the UK. I had some small problem with my
penis (some veins appeared swollen), which I went to my doctor for, and
he decided to refer me to a urologist.
The urologist examined my penis, found no
with my veins, but decided that I should be circumcised because my
foreskin was tight. I immediately refused, and I tried to explain that
it wasn't as tight as it had been a year before, because I had been
stretching it. He told me that my stretching loosened the foreskin by
giving it small tears [this
is not true if the stretching is gentle enough],
and that it would soon become even tighter. He also told me that I
would get a build up of smegma, which he said could cause cancer.
I refused the operation, and he offered a
'half-circumcision', and I still refused, and he seemed to get a little
annoyed. He told me "well, think about it, and if you wait you may
later get paraphimosis,
and then we'll be operating on an emergency basis".
A year later, and of course my penis is
Unfortunately at the time I was a little upset by the whole thing, and
I didn't realise that I could actually complain about it, so I didn't
file any complaints.
I definitely got pressured by my delivering
circumcise, unsuccessfully of course!! The birth and everything went
great, my son was born healthy with no problems and im Thankful for
that!! Then things went south when he say's to me " o.k. he looks
GREAT! we can get him circumcised tomorrow" ( This is literally RIGHT
after the birth, i mean he just stitched me up and im still laying there bleeding
when he says this to me, nice huh?) I say to him...."oh No we're NOT
getting him circumcised!!" Then of course he starts spewing this
non-sense about how it's cleaner and healthier and its better to just
get it done now....blah blah blah (meanwhile my pro-circ family is in
the room eating up every word he say's) and i just told him that we're
not changing our minds, and that issue was resolved. After that i
really didn't have any other problems, My Lactation Consultant asked me
if i was getting him circumcised mainly out of curiosity and I told her
"No" and she just said "GOOD!". My son's pediatrician looked him over
the next day but didn't say anything regarding circumcision.
The day i was getting discharged one of the
recovery nurse's walk in and say's "Oh did you want to get him
circumcised??" (This was like an hour before they let me go so it was
kind of like they forgot about me, which was nice!) I just said "Nope"
and she just turned around and walked out. THEN the Delivering OB
(AGAIN) came in just to check on me and see how I was doing, said I
looked good and was discharging me and before he walked out he say's "If you change your mind about getting him
circumcised, let me know, I can do it"
When my son was born, we
were asked about 20 times if we wanted him circumcised,
despite the fact that our birth plan stated "NO CIRCUMCISION." Every
nurse and doctor kept asking, "He's not circumcised. You don't want him
And then pediatricians feel the need to
that my son is "more at risk".
When I gave birth to my son in 1995 at
Presbyterian Hospital in Charlotte NC. I informed the pediatrician (the
person that does the circumcision) in advance that I did not want my
son circumcised. He agreed that there was no medical reason, but still
recommended it so he would look like other boys. The day after my son
was born (he was born at night) a nurse came in to my hospital room
with a number of forms to sign, including a circumcision consent form.
I told them that I did not want my son circumcised unless they could
give me a valid medical reason for it. The nurse left. A couple of
hours later two nurses came back in with only the circumcision consent
form and asked me to sign it. I asked them why they were giving me the
form again when I had declined earlier. They said, "We just want to
make absolutely sure you do not want this." I asked if there was a good
medical reason to do so (I knew there wasn't, I just wanted to see what
they would say). Suddenly one of the nurses grabbed the form and
started to scratch a big red "X" over it. She seemed upset so I asked
if she was mad. She replied, "Well, I
am just making sure he isn't accidentally circumcised."
Good grief. I was shocked how medicine was
practiced at one of the largest hospitals in Charlotte NC, nurses
repeatedly soliciting for unnecessary medical procedures and then
suggesting that there's a significant likelihood that the procedure may
still be performed without my consent if I do not make it very clear
that I do not want the procedure for my son by having a large X crossed
over the consent form.
I have no suit but can testify for a
anyone has a claim against this hospital for a circumcision performed
during this time period...
Dean Pisani says he and his wife were
have their expected baby circumcised by the obstetrician and doctors in
Illinois hospitals even before they knew his sex.
The Pisanis researched the topic "and could
no rational or persuasive argument to subject a baby to surgery that
had no medical benefit. We came
under pressure from doctors prior to the birth of both of
our children, but none could substantiate the medical necessity to
perform the surgery. The pressure from doctors was both inappropriate
christine mastin of PA posting on
News.com, September 4, 2009
i was a single mother when my son was born.
nurse came in with instruction for circumcision, i said i didn't sign
anything to have him circumcised, she said we'll do that next, i said
no we wont he is staying complete, unharmed, not damaged, left in tact.
She came back
times trying to get me to sign the paper work, i demanded
to see my son in tact. she scowled at me in disgust.
Isn't it nice that Hugo had a choice? Look
the pond: most men neither need nor want to have part of their penis
cut off. When my son was born, our
doctor and nurse really pressured us to do it, without any of the
"informed consent" mumbo-jumbo. They just wanted to do it.
We didn't, even though I'm cut. There's no medical study supporting the
belief that an un-circumcised America would suffer - or that Europeans
are less healthy - and obviously amputating sexual tissue must diminish
sexual sensation, no matter what circumcised "doctors" say. This was
all before the HIV/circumcision scare, but I see that HIV rates in
uncircumcised Europe are lower than in mostly circumcised America. Duh:
if you are having sex with infected people, count on getting infected,
cut or not. I think the new push to
circumcise is psychological, not medical.
... My son was born at 31 weeks and only 3
told them then that I did not want him circumcised. They explained to
me that most children [should] keep the same appearance as their
father's. I told them that dad was circumcised but that the baby will
NOT be. After spending 3 wks in the NICU they said that he was finally
strong enough to be circumcised. Do they really believe that a child
that has already been struggling, should then have his penis mutilated
before coming home? It kind of makes me sick that they were so
We had to
request multiple times and had to confirm with our doctors
and nurses that we did NOT want our son circumcised. The pediatrician
said "really? I guess it's not that necessary anymore. Here's how you
clean it..." The resistance to our decision compared to the blase
response of the pediatrician indicates an atrocious knowledge-procedure
gap for newborn boys.
I did not have my son circumcised. Its his
He can decide when hes
older. I felt weird making such a personal decision for him. The nurses
were really pushing it though. Circumcision is not
neccesary is it?
When my first son was born in 1975 I told
doctor not to circumcise him. He didn't ask us about it; he was just going to do it automatically.
He gave me all the stupid reasons, like being different from his
friends. I prevailed. I went through the same process with the same
doctor with my second son in 1977.
... my son was born in California, and I
that he not be circumcised. I moved to Kentucky three years later, and
my son got a kidney infection. I was told by the doctor that it was
because he was uncircumcised, and not knowing any better, I allowed
them to perform the procedure. They botched it, and my son was
subjected to intense pain and subsequent embarrassment that he still
suffers fifteen years later. Now I know it wasn't even necessary.
You know even though my boys penis's are
completely healed, I still feel guilty for having them snipped. I wish
I would have been provided with more information with my first born.
Instead I was pressured by the doctors and family to circumcise.
OH [Other Half] and I have decided NOT to
baby circumcised when he is born, OH is not and I don't want to subject
a newborn to an unecessary (sp?) surgery. My OB [Obstetrician] is being
really really pushy about this though! Luckily our pediatrician is
After the wife of a member of our foreskin
restoration group (NORM-Phoenix) suddenly gave birth to a boy
six weeks premature (in 2004), he, the husband, felt compelled to stand
guard over the child for several weeks prior to the child's discharge
from the hospital, as both parents were under constant pressure to have
their child's foreskin removed.
Just before the child's release, one
exasperated doctor accosted the father, almost demanding that the child
be circumcised, saying: "But that's what we do, here!" This in a large
hospital located in a tony, northerly section of the seemingly
progressive town of Scottsdale, Arizona.
I am uncut and in my 38 years I have NEVER
problems with my penis, nor have I ever felt awkward about it or been
ridiculed by any of the women I have been with. In fact, most didn't
even notice and a few who had never seen one told me that they liked it
better the natural way. I insisted that our son also be left intact,
though the hospital staff must have
asked us at least half a dozen times if we wanted to circumcise him.
If the AAP changes its policy to recommend circumcision, they will
probably make it much harder for parents to opt out of it.
Mike on The
Oracle (U of South Florida) March 16, 2010
"It’s not right for the CDC to impose
-- I have to agree, anyone that has had a son born in the US already
knows the constant badgering from
the medical profession. They can make money off the
procedure, by the CDC making a recommendation it just gives the medical
community another form of coercion to place on parents during a
stressful time. My son was born back in 2005, we
were ask[ed] a total of 3 times before I could get my son
safely home (question[s] like "you realize your son hasn't been
circumcised yet"). Why were they so interested in my son's penis? I can
only think it was the money not the well being of my child.
"That dirty European"
françoise on May
(to my sons: sorry if this embarrasses you)
When i INSISTED that i would NOT sign the medical release decades ago,
for the rest of my stay in the ward, nurses pointed me out to each
other referring to me in loud whispers as that
DIRTY EUROPEAN. I am an old woman now but went around the
block a few times in my, too short, heydays and my position hasn’t
changed as a mother or as a woman.
i am an imigrant to the states from ukraine.
born there and therefore am intact. recently i was in the hospital
where my brother was being born, and the doctor came in with some
papers and handed them to my father. i saw a vein bulge in his neck and
looked damn near ready to yell at him. the doctor started explaining
that it had "health benefits" and made
it sound that every intact person WILL get some sort of disease.
my dad told him that he, his family, his friends, and everyone he knows
is intact and has never had disease or any problem regarding the
foreskin. he also told him that he knows more cut guys who have stds
than intact men. after handing the papers back without signiture, the doctor looked suprised that anyone would
choose not to.
... When our son was born this past
had already decided long before that he would not be circumcised.
However, we were probably asked at
least a dozen times if we wanted to have it done, to the
point that I worried it might happen by accident, if they mixed him up
with another baby. ...
Fifty years ago I
Had to fight the doctor to keep my son from having that
barbaric action taken on him. They told me it was cleaner and I said,
then cut the tips of his fingers off to keep the nails clean!! That
stopped their arguements
My husband who is circumcised was adamant
son not be mutilated like he was. He watched him like a hawk in the
hospital because it seemed like
everyone was ready to cut off our son's foreskin at every
turn. No one in the hospital understood our decision. We also had
several disagreements with family members who believed that it was
medically necessary and thought that our son would have problems later
I gave birth to my son in a small, "baby
hospital with waterbirth tubs in every room. It was a beautiful space,
a very unusual hospital that paid close attention to gentle beginnings,
didn't have a nursery, and taught safe co-sleeping practices. Yet,
despite this attention to a peaceful start, they
asked me 4 times if I wanted to have David circumcised. I
told them no in 4 creative ways, learning that all of the nurses and
most of the doctors didn't approve of the practice. THEY STILL DID IT
[to other babies]. I will never forget resting in my beautiful room
with my perfect son in my arms, listening to the screams of baby boys
being cut in a little room next to the nurses' station. I cried and
held David close - but those screams still haunt my nightmares. I
wanted to run in and stand in front of that knife. I wanted to run to
their parents rooms and shout, WHY ARE YOU DOING THIS TO YOUR PERFECT
BABY? I know it probably wouldn't have done any good, but I still feel
like I didn't do enough. So, I'm speaking out....
i was pregnant when i posted on here last.
is now 6 months old. they asked us
10 times before we left the hospital if we wanted him
circumsized. i completely left it up to my husband and he told them no
everytime they asked. i sent my husband all kinds of emails and
information and even though we never actually spoke to each other about
it my point got through and hes told me several times how happy he is
we left our son intact. dad calls baby george anteater sometimes lol
We had our baby boy 7 years ago at the "baby
factory" (St Johns Mercy) and they put lots of pressure on us to circ
our son. They tried to make us feel we were making a big mistake by not
having it done.
They actually slipped the circ order in with
forms they asked my wife to sign such that she signed the circ order
without realizing it. When I told the nurse that we would not circ she
said well your wife agreed to the procedure. My wife told me that she
never saw the form. After that we were labled difficult patients. My
son was NOT circumcised.
I have a newborn son - less than 4 weeks
did not circumcise him as my husband and I had previously decided not
to. I was asked three different
times if we wanted it done and each time we declined. One
of the reasons offered for it was that it is covered by insurance in
our state. As if that's a reason!
To be honest, when my son was born in 1978,
circumcized. The doctor acted like this was something that was routine
and really never even gave me a
choice about it. Now, I know that he should have given me
more information about how the procedure was done and made sure I was
making an educated choice....
25 yrs ago I refused circumcision for my
Even his doctor tried to humiliate
me. I couldn't care less back then and now I see I was on
the right side of history. Feel sorry for all the boys that can't get
it back now.
... with my first child they
didn't even really ask me if I wanted my son circumcised,
its all so "assumed". They shove a
consent in your face and being only 20yrs old then,
thinking they have my best interests at heart right? Wrong! My son was
scarred in such a way he had to be "redone" at about the age of 2.
After that I decided my second son could make the choice for himself.
When my mother viewed her first grandson,
noted that we had decided to leave him intact. She said that is fine;
that my father had been intact and that I was probably the first in our
family's line for whom circumcision at birth had been chosen. I
thought no more about it. It was the rule when I was a boy.
A decade later, moments before she passed
held her hand. She whispered something. I bent closer to hear. "I am
sorry," she said. "I wanted you to know."
She was sorry that she had chosen for me something that she really did not want;
something the lying[-]in hospital thought was essential.
This had haunted her for years. I did not know.
To this day I regret that she felt the need
express regret as her last words to me. I wish I had never had this
done for me for that reason alone, if for no other. I hope not one of
my male descendents ever have it imposed upon them. It will be their
choice, and their choice alone.
RD on February 16, 2012
I’m an American male and was really hurt to
out what my mother had consented to. I hate what was done to me because
of some pushy ... doctor. My mother said no twice.
February 20, 2012
Pedetrician tried a 6th time to convince my
to do a #circumcision on my baby. Fucking predation, not informed
When did circumcision come back in fashion
for Christians? It's not seen as a religious thing any more, but we had to tell the hospital several times
we didn't want it done, and then they
charged us for the procedure they didn't perform.
It has always puzzled me that parents who
shampoo, to prevent hurting their baby's eyes, see no issue when it
comes to cutting off the foreskin without a pain killer. When my son
was born, in an military hospital in Germany, I
practically had to fight the doctor to prevent him from
What kinda made sure for me that it was a
"No way, nohow" was the pressures I got from the doctors. The pressure
from the doctors came a couple of days after you gave birth, in that
timeframe, and "Why aren't you doin' it?" "Everyone on the hospital is
doin' it." It just kind of shoved me over, it was like, a procedure. No
respect for humans at all. Male or female, that's irrelevant. And the
other issue that came to me, while I was in hospital was, it weighed
very heavy on me, why should a woman make a decision for a man that has
no voice? I just, something along that line, I couldn't live with
myself. So I said "No way, nohow, I am not mutilatiing my child." ...
In 1993, 1995, 1997 & 1999 I gave
a son in each year, so I had 4 sons.
I would not allow them to be mutilated.
In one case, a
doctor ranted for half an hour in my hospital room, a day
after I had given birth, about how I was doing my baby a bad thing not
to make sure he was 'kept clean' & I was mute with astonishment
at this doctors anger at me. But I did not budge. My sons are now ages
19, 17, 15 & 12 are intact & happy & healthy.
I had a son in November 2010. I had him
However, I gave birth to another boy in September 2012. Before I even
knew he was a boy, I decided to leave my baby whole. He was born with a
heart condition called Hypoplastic Left Heart Syndrome and despite
that, the doctors still asked if I
was having him circumcised over and over. The answer was
and always will be NO! He is 3 and a half months old now, still intact
and has endured 2 open heart surgeries. No one will lay a hand...or a
scalpel...on my son's penis. He is perfect the way he is....
While working as a maternity nurse in the
I knew of at least one male infant who bled to death following
circumcision carried out in the hospital where he was born. I can still
see his parents’ faces when they were told their beautiful baby was
dead. Because of that experience I did not allow my son to be
circumcised in spite of the social pressure on all parents to consent
to it at the time. We were
practically forced to agree and it took a strong parent to say ‘no’ to
the pressure to consent ...
My son is very grateful I refused to be bullied by the so called
‘medical experts’ or religious nutters, and he would never allow his
sons to be circumcised.either. ...
How many deaths have there actually been? Is anyone taking
responsibility for them? If not, why not?
We had our oldest circumcised and, at 3 year
he has a skin bridge that will have to be taken care of later in his
life. Welcome to the world buddy, We are cutting your penis and it is
going to cause you problems later in life.
We didn't cut our second son and the doctor went a little nuts! He told me
over and over again (before I left the hospital) that my son would have
increased risk of UTI, that if I waited he would have to be under
anesthesia. He implored my husband. We like this guy a
lot, he does a great job with the kids, but hey man...I said keep your
hands off my kids c*ck, I understand that there is a risk, but its not
like I don't bathe the kid!
40+ years ago when my brother was born the hospital refused to admit my Mom until
she signed the papers giving them permission to circumcise
him. My Dad is not circumcised and had no intention of having it done
to his children.
My son is was born 15 minutes after arriving
the hospital. Because of his fast arrival he was admitted into the NICU
and was kept there for 7 days because he "might" get jaundice, even
though jaundice can easily be treated at home! FOUR
times while going for feedings and visits, there were
circumcision consent forms laid out for us to sign. Each time we put a
BIG X across the paper and it was filed in his folder. I honestly felt
like they were trying to "trick" us into signing it knowing that we had
to leave him there. On the last attempt I made it very clear to the
neonatologist that if he was to be circumcised, we would sue!
Circumcision was never mentioned again.
When I had my oldest, we repeatedly
declined circ but they were so keen on circumcising him
that when I went to the bathroom, I took him with me to keep them from
taking him against my will. My husband and I had to take turns staying
awake and watching him because they tried to get him in the middle of
the night when we were asleep. That's hardly leaving it up to parental
Caitie - personal
communication, July 8, 2013
a retired science teacher with a Master's Degree in human physiology
and PhD course completion credits in cardiology, so I know quite a bit
about the human body and how it works.
My son ... was born
April of 1984. I had been in labor for 32 hours (natural childbirth),
so I was starving and tired ...
I hadn't eaten since Sunday and this was Tuesday morning.
We didn't know ahead of time whether we were
having a boy or a girl...
As I passed the baby's shoulders and he was officially born, I heard
one of the nurses say in enthusiasm, “What do we have? Oh, it's a boy!”
and my heart soared. I had a son. A beautiful, perfect son. I was
My OBGYN put this beautiful newborn baby boy
stomach and the very first thing he said, while I was still marveling
at the fact that I'd just become the mother of this absolutely gorgeous
child, was “Are you going to have him circumcised?” ...
My son hadn't even had his umbilical cord cut yet!
I hesitated, because I don't think
necessary and I didn't want to subject my newborn son to such a
procedure. However, I was overruled by both the doctor, who said, “I
recommend it!” and my husband, who said, “YES!” very definitively. He
is, as you can imagine, circumcised as well.
I gave in, largely because I was so tired
hungry, but I had misgivings. ...
I did have the thought flash through my mind that I didn't want to
subject [him] to ridicule or feeling
“different” by being perhaps the only kid he knew who had a foreskin,
but I still had doubts ...
The day after ...
, a nurse brought him in to me to show me now to bathe him, and he was
still intact. The thought crossed my mind, “I could still put a stop to
this,” and I mentioned to the nurse, “I see they still haven't done the
circumcision. I'm really not sold on the idea,” and she said, “I know,
but it's for the best.” I looked at my perfect, intact son and thought,
“I hope it doesn't hurt him too much” and it was breaking my heart. How
I wish I could go back to that day again! I'd never have allowed it
now, and I'd have told my husband so. I didn't care what the doctor
thought, it was really because my husband wanted it so that I let it
To this day, 29 years later, I regret not fighting harder against the
I don't buy into all of the traditional arguments for it, and if so
many of the world's males are intact and have none of the problems
we're told will happen to uncircumcised males, I have to question the
validity of the arguments and assume that they come from a place of
prejudiced brain-washing of both doctors and lay people.
I support the movement to allow newborn boys remain the way nature
intended; with an intact foreskin....
My room happened to be directly across from the nurses’ station. When
it came time for us to go home, I overheard our midwife tell the nurse
on duty that she was going to start the discharge paperwork.
can’t discharge them! They haven’t had him circumcised yet!
Our midwife informed her that we’d declined
on paper and verbally. Then the nurse proceeded to argue with the
midwife that there MUST have been a misunderstanding. I guess having
“no circumcision” in our birth plan, actively declining in our
admissions paperwork, and reiterating “no” at every single shift change
somehow did not preclude any ambiguity for her.
To be fair, all three midwives and all three
pediatricians we had seen up to this point were either openly
supportive of our (non)decision or never mentioned circumcision at all.
It was the nurses
just would not. stop. asking. Our impression was that they
believed we would “come to our senses” eventually, although I suppose
some of them could have just been functioning on autopilot rather than
passing judgment. Still, it was the one blight on what was an otherwise
very positive experience.
The silver lining to this particular
that after our obviously irritated midwife stuck her head in to verify
that my husband and I honestly, truly, really meant what we said, we
also got to overhear her giving the nurse an earful–not just for her
lack of professionalism, but for acting as though taking home a
perfectly normal, healthy male baby as-is would be something to avoid
at all costs.
Wow. This sounds like one of the 5 nurses I
with my last. We medically could NOT circumcise our son and she followed us to the parking lot demanding
we "make him normal." I hope the OP had a slightly saner
nurse on her hands.
sounds like when i took my son home! two
days of nurses coming in, going “oh, and you’re not circumcising him”
and then moving on became a FREAK OUT 20 minutes before we were
supposed to leave as i was finishing the discharge paperwork, three
nurses came in and said “You can’t
leave yet, we didnt circumcise him!” and then looked at me
kinda deadpan when i said “we’re not going to” and the nurse that was
already there with me just showed them the paper where i had already
declined it….. ...
Dee Resnick Forlano on Omaha.com December 18, 2013
Doctors continually solicit and push parents
offering up thier sons for this mutilation. My
sister in law was asked 3 times per day if she wanted her
son cut while she was in the hospital recovering from his birth, Each
shift of nurses, every day checked to be sure she hadn't changed her
mind. There is a financial motive for health care practitioners and
hospitals to solicit this unnecessary surgery.
Five mothers coerced to circumcise - one a
too, by mistake. Facebook, January 12, 2014
Sigh. This happened to me too, homebirth
that ended with a cesarean, Rhogam, pushy nurses. No less than five people asked
if I wanted him circumcised.
Sara MacFarlane, your experience sounds very similar to mine. We only
had one nurse repeatedly bring up
circumcision. She even approached my husband when I wasn't
around. I guess she thought he'd be sympathetic to her cause- but he's
intact too, and shut her right down
I've noticed it's really regional too. When
my first son we said once that we weren't circumcising and that was it.
We've moved since then and when I had DS2 we
were asked multiple times if we needed to schedule the
circumsion. It was almost like they thought it was forgotten. That
said, regional or not, I've never felt judged in either place.
We didn't with either of our boys. The hospital asked a thousand times,
so we assume it is the norm here, but frankly- I don't care what anyone
else is doing, these are my kids. When my ODS was born the first thing
my BIL asked was "so you had him cut, right?" And then went off on my
DH about how he's going to be the laughing stock of the school when he
gets to high school. My theory is any teenage boy who is that concerned
with whether his peers are cut or intact during gym class has some
personal issues of his own to work out.
I was adamant that I would not be having my
circumcised but when he was born he ended up in the NICU for a week,
during which time, I was asked 6 or
so times whether I was having a circumcision and had I
forgotten to sign the paper to get it done - as though I might have
forgotten something like that!?
I couldn't possibly have decided to keep my
"in tact", could I? - I couldn't believe it! I knew that circumcision
in America was almost just the done thing but I didn't realize how
abnormal SOME places seem to see the process of just leaving it alone!!
Marissa, friend of
Brother K on
May 29, 2014
When I had my son they wrote on the board a
of things to do before discharge, every
time a new nurse came in they would say "Oh we still need to perform
the circumcision." I told each nurse over and over it was
NOT to be done. Finally after 5 nurses I spoke up and said, "Can you
please write NO next to circumcision. I'm sick of getting asked, my son
will not be circumcised." After that I was thanked by my dr for being
an educated and informed momma :)
gives no respite:
Brian Herrity on YouTube
Kaiser Permanante Hospital, Walnut Creek CA, July 6, 2014 (starts at 0:49)
"When I was boothing at a Bay Area
event once, a man told me that his son was born at this hospital,
Kaiser Walnut Creek, and he had to
tell five different nurses "No, I don't want to
circumcise my son." When they sent the sixth nurse in -
different person - again, trying to shove the consent-form down his
throat, he said "No - if you send someone else in here, I will call my
lawyer." And so he was just like "No, they pushed on me and felt I was
lucky I made it out with my son in one piece."
I worked as an OB nurse for many years
having a son. During those years, I watched and assisted at many, many
circumcisions of newborn boys. The longer I worked, the more I came to
respect our amazing bodies--bodies that make babies, grow babies and
birth babies. The birth of a newborn is a true miracle--both in
function and in appearance. If these beautiful newborn boys are born
with a foreskin, there's probably a good reason why they have one, and
who am I to decide it is unnecessary or looks funny? Now, In 1990 it
was not common at all for parents to leave their newborn sons intact,
and my decision was questioned by everyone except my husband, and my
mother in law, who, being 1st generation Italian in the 1950's, chose
not to have her sons circumcised either. I
was asked 6 times during my 2 day stay in the hospital
after my birth if I planned on circumcising my son and every time I
emphatically said no, I am leaving him intact, I was met with shocked
and pitying looks--these from health professionals!
My intact son is 25 and my intact husband is 59. Zero issues with
Horrifying, barbaric practice. my son was
a catholic hospital - they came in wanting to do this, even gave us
brochures encouraging it. I had to register an emphatic no every time I
A friend of Brother K on Facebook December 11, 2014
CDC GAMBIT ENRAGES MOM ... "My sons were born at Missouri Baptist
Hospital, where they pushed circ heavily with my 2nd son in 2004. My
first was born in 2001, and I was critical - I don't recall them
pushing it with him. Both times I had asked them to put no circ on the
chart. I am still mad, 10 years later, at how they pushed it on me with
my 2nd, mostly because I know they have probably bullied other mothers
into it. What they did was with my 2nd - at every nurse change asked,
"When are we circumcising," after 2 obs had told me they had - at my
request - put no circ on the chart. One nurse tried to give me a
brochure on the circed penis. They all came in, assuming it was being
done. Finally at the last change, I said, "It seems like you're pushing
it!" The nurse said, 'Oh no, we're neutral," quickly changed the
subject, and left. If I had it to do again, I would have raised the
roof. I'd have the stickers and the onesies. I knew to fight off the
wolves. Intact should be the default. It shouldn't have to be
researched and fought for and debated. It should just BE. And it's not.
I hate that society lied to me, and that everyone I ever dated (and the
one I married) was harmed by this. The CDC thing has just angered and
upset me all over again." ~A friend
son is now 23 and 23 years [ago] I had to make the choice of
whether or not to mutilate my child. I chose not to. But the nurses in
the hospital tried on a daily basis to take him away for the procedure
(I had a c-section and was in the hospital for a few days). Thank
goodness I was breast feeding and insisted he remain in my room 24/7;
otherwise he may have been surgically damaged because the medical field
treats it as routine and normal....
When I was stationed in Germany with the US Airforce and my son was
born I litterally had to fight the doctors on the base not to
circumzise my son. Their argument came down to "Everyone in America"
does it. Don't do it. There is no medical justification for it.
TJ Whittaker ·
Connecticut on VICE, April 1, 2015
In 2005 we had our first child. Upon arrival, I informed the hospital
staff that we were not circumcising our son twice. First while filing
out the paperwork and then again once we were in our room. It wasn't
until the second time that I actually saw a provider write the words
"No circ" on my wifes charts. My son was born and all was well aside
from a small white cyst on the tip of his foreskin. The Dr said it was
no big deal and that would be taken care of soon enough to which I
said, "No, he's not being circumcised." His response was still positive
and said it'll clear up on its own. No less than an hour later a nurse
walks into our room, removes our sons diaper, and begins applying a
numbing cream on his genitals. I asked her what she thought she was
doing and she very matter of factly informed me that she was preparing
him to be cut. I responded as nicely as possible that she needed to
look at his medical records because he was not touched again like that.
She checked his charts and walked out. It took me a little while to
calm down and when I left to get something for my wife I made it a
point to stop by the nurse manager (in front of multiple Dr and
patients) and ask for reassurance that they weren't going to make
another attempt at my sons penis while I was out of the hospital. The
awkwardness of that question was awesome. Needless to say, my son is 9
now and still intact. No further attempts on my sons foreskin was
Five mothers in three hours...
- on Brother K's Facebook
April 21, 2015
When I was in the hospital they asked us more
than I can count (I stopped counting at 7) if we wanted our son
circumcised. [My husband] became very protective and at one point said
about "I'll body slam anyone that touches my son's penis". He became so
protective when he realized they wanted to harm his son.